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At the end of the day, when you are left with nothing but chaos in mind, who listens to you? And even if someone does, how much or how often do they understand what you mean?
The people you have in your life, the ones you rely on, will be there for you and they will do their best to provide you the comfort they can, but there will still be days when you will feel misunderstood, misjudged, and alone. And on those days, you need to know that you got you! This simple statement makes things less complicated.
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Our problem is that we rely on people a little too much, we expect things from them and when they fail to behave that way, we go and tell them they hurt us! But what did they do? You are the only one that’s responsible for your well-being, no one else is. Everybody has their own life and they too are trying to figure it out. I understand we expect our friends to be there and understand what we are trying to say or what we are feeling but my friend they are humans too, and humans can not understand everything or every perspective and it’s okay.
My question is, why rely on anyone else? We complain that people take us for granted, yes, they do, but why give them a chance? Why show them you need them? Because the truth is nobody needs anybody, we want them and there’s a difference.
Let’s be confident enough that even if, we are left with no one, we know we can handle it all. Cherish the people around you, because forever doesn’t exist, make thousands of memories, have fights, but don’t lose each other. But despite all, always remember that people aren’t always going to be there for you, that’s why you gotta learn to handle things on your own.
At the end of the day, you only have yourself, so believe in it. Believe in your heart. Believe in your mind. It’s a myth that you need someone to complete you, why believe that? Are you half? Oh no! You are complete in yourself.
People will always find a way to make you doubt yourself but it’s up to you to decide if you want to believe them or if you want to believe in yourself.
So let them bash you. Let them call you crazy. Let them say you’re not good enough. Let them say you’re too much or too little. Let them call you stubborn and difficult. Let them say you’ll never make it. Let them think they’re better than you. Let them judge you all they want because all they’re doing is fueling you to become everything you’re supposed to be and stay true to every little piece of yourself. Fight it all, because you can.
They’re doing you a favor because they’re showing you whom you don’t want to be around, whom you shouldn’t trust and who only likes you when you’re quiet. After all, they can’t handle your voice. They can’t handle you! So let them say whatever they want because eventually you’ll stop listening and they’ll be nothing but background noise. Eventually, you’ll find peace your way. You’ll find yourself away from those trying to tell you who you should be or what kind of life you should live. Eventually, you’ll learn that if you can count on yourself, nothing else counts. As they say, “no one is more powerful than the person who believes he doesn’t need anybody.”
Depending on others is giving them power over something that they should not have power. You try to give them your life to make it happy, something they can NEVER do. Start getting to know yourself. Stop depending on other people for anything in your life. Understand who you are and what you want in this life. Trust your own decisions and judgments, because ultimately, that is what will shape your destiny. “When you rely upon or depend on others, you are letting them borrow your life.”
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The people who depend on others, and wait for others to validate are never bosses, not even of their own life and how sad is that! Quit waiting for people to approve you and start approving yourself. Learn to carry yourself on your own back, people will drop you faster than they picked you.
This is your life, live it your way. If you are going to depend on others and follow them, then that’s what they’ll expect of you and then you can’t complain. The theory is simple if you don’t like how your life looks now, change it, and how? Well, change your behavior, your habits, the way you speak to yourself, everything. And, then wait for the magic to happen.
You own the first day of your life. You own the last. And you own everything in between.
“Don’t compromise yourself. You’re all you’ve got.” ― Janis Joplin