Are you the kind of person who self-doubts when somebody says a certain something about you? Do you start thinking that maybe, just maybe they are right? So, hey friend you are not alone. I think we all sometimes do that, don’t we? When a person who matters to us, says something about us, or shares an opinion they might be having of us, we start doubting our capabilities.
Ever wondered where this self-doubt comes from? This self-doubt is a result of trusting another person’s opinion of you more than your own. The person, might mean the whole world to you, but can they not be wrong? They might say something about you in rage during an argument, and you might think about it the whole day because you believe they know and understand you better than you do. So, let me put it straight, nobody in this world knows you better than you! That’s it, end of the story.
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And the thing is everyone thinks of you differently because what people see and perceive is entirely based on their life experiences, the kind of people they met, and the kind of life they have been living. It has nothing to do with you, their interpretation of you is their very own. It’s not you, it’s them. But that is what we fail to understand sometimes and this can trigger you into low self-confidence, changing the way that you are, and doing things the way they want you to do. You might end up losing the essence of who you are in the process. Need not worry, I got your back, here is the trick: Be unapologetically yourself! And that’s it, that is the trick. Be who you are, be the main character, own yourself, and let them say what they want to say or believe, of course, the opinions of people who are close to you should matter but only to an extent that it doesn’t mess with your confidence and your belief of who you are because trust me I have been through this and nothing can damage a person more than this. If you start considering their opinion and mend your ways accordingly, you will be damaging yourself.
And also, sometimes people don't even know that their words/thoughts/opinions are affecting you in a negative way, you can talk it out and let them know how it makes you feel, and maybe they will understand you, and in case they don't ,then no worries, stop caring about what they think.
You are a result of your life experiences, the way you perceive things should be and will be different, and you know what? That is completely fine! Nobody can jail you for thinking differently. Different minds, different thinking as simple as that! You must have heard, “you can’t change the world, you can only change yourself” and that is what we are talking about. Nothing you say or do is going to change the way they interpret you, but the question is why do you even want to? Let them, for god’s sake let them!
Are you too sensitive for your good? Do you get triggered when people say things about you that you know aren't even true? It's easy for a sensitive nature to blow things out of proportion, but try to build the thick skin that lets you shake it off.
When you are high on confidence and self-love, people around you are going to be triggered, because how the hell you are growing? But hey, who cares? Confidence looks good on you.
When you love yourself enough, you will attract people with the same kind of energy, who will love you more than you do. And also, remember, most people aren't paying much attention. People spend more time thinking about themselves than thinking about others. If they're expressing an opinion about your life, it's probably not something they've given much thought to but just a passing thought. Nobody else is living your life. They might have opinions or ideas, but the only person who knows what is best for you is you. And that means you need to learn about yourself through your own mistakes and failures.
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Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation. You don’t want to add yourself to the list, right?
Don’t get sucked into some clever clog’s reckless opinion, no matter how convincing it might sound. You could spend your whole life trying to meet other people’s standards. But that’s not a strategy for a fulfilling life.
Now is the time to start honoring your authentic values. Get to know yourself. Hang out with your kind. Put others’ opinions in perspective. Only then will you be free to live your life, your way.
People will love you; people will hate you, and none of it will have anything to do with you. Make your choices and live by those decisions, take full responsibility for what you do and how you do it. When you do, you'll gain the self-esteem you need and the power to give yourself what you want, without blaming anyone for your mistakes. It’s your life to live, live it your way.
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”— Dr. Seuss