While talking to a friend yesterday, I realized how many changes life demands in a person, it all depends on the phase you are going through at the moment. You need a different version of yourself in every phase.
You might be comfortable living in a certain way, doing certain things, and hanging out with certain people and then BOOM! One day, all is gone just like somebody pressed the restart/ refresh button. In just a moment, everything becomes a memory, and one can only cherish memories. Ever wondered why this happens? Have you heard the quote “Growth lies outside one’s comfort zone”, and this situation we are talking about is exactly that! You will never be able to grow if you are not provided with an environment that’s challenging enough and the one that demands a new, updated version of you.
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When you face a time like this, where everything you were proud of has completely vanished, you might feel stuck in a way that you are not able to decide what you should do? Where did you go wrong? What was the thing that you should have observed and corrected? But my friend these are barely questions because the thing you need to understand here is that everyone has a certain chapter/period in your life, and people leave when it’s over; nothing you do or say is going to stop them. You can’t make someone love or respect you right? Either they do or they do not. It is what it is.
So, the best thing you can do to yourself is redirecting your energy, focus on yourself, make yourself grow and glow, and let them see what they missed, after all, you are a BIG deal, no? People must be grateful to have you in their life, and if they are not, you will eventually find the ones that are, but for new doors to open, old doors must be closed, right on time. There is nobody other than you who cares about you, do not let the opinion of others affect yours, you are strong enough to fight your own battle, just believe in yourself a little more on days, you feel low. Confidence looks magical on you!
Now, the question is how can you redirect your energy, redirecting your energy simply means focusing on things that matter to you, things that need to be taken care of, parts of you that are unhealed, taking care of your inner child. Do things that make you happy, focus on people around you by this I mean the kind of vibes, goals, and aspirations they have towards life, refine your social circle, keep the quality not the quantity, one real friend is better than 100 fake ones.
Energy is contagious, positive and negative alike. You must forever be mindful of what and who you are allowing into your space. And with all of this, also focus on your thoughts, vibes, and imagination because as they say “your thought becomes your reality”, think positively, believe in yourself, look out for opportunities and meanwhile hype up the people around you because the kind of vibes or energy you emit is the kind universe will give you back. Build new habits that can help you to be on track for example journaling. Do all this, and take care and acknowledge each of your emotions as well! It’s healthy to experience both negative and positive emotions, try to control your emotions while respecting them at the same time, and by control, I mean you should be able to direct your emotions rather than your emotions directing you, the process will be long, harsh, and full of ups and downs but there is no better feeling than knowing that no one can hurt you if you don’t allow them to.
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Rather than getting jealous or envying people around you, see what you can do because you are your competition. The journey of life is indeed full of ups and downs, but what is a journey anyway if not filled with some thrill, excitement, and joyous rides? Do not worry about the destination, enjoy the journey, and live every moment with excitement because hey, nothing stays forever, right? Not even the bad days! And anyway, you are stronger than you know, now rose needs thorns too to keep it protected, no? So do you, you need a shield around your heart to keep it protected and the bad days you experience will help you build that , so that you can love people again but this time only when they deserve it.
I hope this blog made you feel happier. If yes (Congrats to me, that was the only motive) and even if not (will try better next time, promise)
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Here is me signing off.
Sending good vibes your way :)
“You have to start romanticizing your life, you have to start thinking of yourself as the main character, ‘cause if you don’t, life will continue to pass you by, and all the little things that make it so beautiful will continue to go unnoticed, so take a second and look around.”