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Have you ever made a mistake you feel awful about, and you wish that you could go back and change things? Well, if yes then am sure you are not the only one.
But, whatever happens, happens for good. Life happens, we make mistakes and that’s okay! In my opinion , I would not like to go back in the past and change anything I have done. Do you want to know why? It’s because all the mistakes that I have ever made have helped me become the person I am today! And I am very happy with how things turned out to be.
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When you make a mistake, keep in mind that it doesn’t define who you are as a person. Try not to jump to conclusions about your worth or value. No one’s perfect, and that’s okay. Mistakes don’t make you who you are, they don’t define you. Your choices do! And it’s your choice whether you want to learn from your mistakes and not repeat them or live in guilt for the rest of your life. While “there are no mistakes, only lessons” might sound like the kind of Insta-quote you scroll past every day, when you stop and think about it, the message is strong. Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone has to deal with them. It’s how you recover that comes to define you.
They are your mistakes, owning them will only make you strong. Saying to yourself, “yes I made a mistake, I promise not to repeat it again, and I am willing to own it up” will help you get relieved. Our generation is so obsessed with doing everything right, why? Failures are what make success more rewarding, isn’t it?
For instance, after you say, 1+1=3, and someone tells you it isn't then only you'll realize it's 2 and not only realize but remember for the rest of your life. See! You made a mistake, owned it up and corrected it. That is what you should do always.
We repeat what we don't repair! Face your mistake head-on, own what happened, and draw a line under it. While it can be tempting to look for an easy out and blame someone else like “I didn’t get that job because the HR had it in for me!” Realizing you’re at fault is the first step to figuring moving forward. Accepting that you made the wrong decision will help you move forward and get control of your life. But if you will keep making excuses for yourself, you’ll probably just prolong this process.
If you’re confused about what you did wrong, or where the mistake was made, it can be tricky to put it in the past. Chances are it’ll still bug you big time. Try having a chat with someone whom you trust. Or if not, then try writing it off. Writing can be very therapeutic in such cases.
Most problems have a solution, l like to believe, “koi cheez Kabhi itni nahi bigadti ki sahi na ki ja sake”, sit down and think about what you can do to improve the situation. You might find that you can smooth some things over and that it’s not as bad as you initially thought. Also, while doing that make sure to identify whether the situation is or is not in your control. It’s better not to waste time on things that do not come into your arena of control.
Your mindset plays a significant role in how you view your mistakes and, most importantly, in how you react to them. If you have a "growth" mindset, you likely see mistakes as an opportunity to improve, and not as something that you are doomed to repeat because your mindset is "fixed" on the belief that you can't improve.
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While saying, "yes, I admit that I made a mistake” is courageous, it is not the only thing you should be doing. You should analyze your mistakes in order to learn from them. Ask yourself questions like: What was I trying to do? What went wrong? When did it go wrong? Why did it go wrong?
We can only change ourselves and not the entire world, but believe me when I say, “when the world inside of you changes, the world outside of you changes.” Some mistakes or lessons are there so that we can identify where we went wrong whereas some are there just to help us develop a fresh mindset on things. It’s good to be open to both of them. While handling all this, remember that “God wouldn’t put you in a situation if he thought that you were incapable of handling it” It is all for your best, trust the process, and have faith, you’ll get through it.
If you are going through anything right now, I wish you luck!
Also, Isn't it nice to think that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet? So, what do you think of making the most of tommorow? Taking one day at a time?
"Admitting to a mistake means refusing to use other people as scapegoats to avoid responsibility but rather courageously owning up to every single one of them." ~ T. Whitmore