Don’t you think that sometimes things in life aren’t as complicated as we make them? We ourselves overthink to the best of our capabilities and end up saying “I have such a messed-up life”. But no, that’s not true! Maybe you are just overthinking a little more than usual. I, too am an overthinker and so, I am not going to tell you not to overthink, because we all do it, don’t we?
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We can’t help our habit of overthinking at times, but we can direct its flow, right? We can always direct our minds into thinking better. Life is simple, it is we who make it complicated. Let’s take some instances, say you have a friend who promised to call you in a bit, but it’s been a long and you haven’t heard from him, and let’s say you have something really important to talk about. Now, what you should do is text/call the person and ask about it, right? But what most of us do is complicate things in our head, you might start thinking that maybe what I want to talk about isn’t as important to this person as it is to me. Looking at the situation from the perspective of a third person, don’t you think the situation was simple, he/she didn’t call because he/she might be busy with some other work, and you could have simply texted or waited. This is just a simple case of how we ourselves complicate things, there are many as such in real life. We tend to make a huge deal out of nothing. We ourselves act difficult or even impossible when we could have acted simply. In other words, we over-react.
There is a quote that says, “A boy and a horse are in woods, and the boy says I can’t see the way through, and the horse says can you see your next step? Boy says yes, and the horse says then take it”. I read this quote somewhere and since then it has stuck by me because that’s what we do right? We want everything to be sorted, clear, and promising. We are too busy thinking about the destination that we often forget the journey, and it’s the journey that matters not the destination. There’s a reason they say, “one day at a time”. We are too busy planning our whole life or what we are going to do in our 20s or 30s, that we forget about what we are doing today! And ironically the reality is that what we are going to do today will eventually shape how we are going to live later. What if we care about today, and let the life unfold itself? What do you feel about this? Talking about me, I feel it would help each and every one of us “live” life! Because Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.
I believe simplicity is important in our lives. Whether it’s a camping trip with no phones, computers, or microwaves, or if it’s just a relaxing evening with a book and a fireplace, going simple can be a great way to reduce your stress and relax. How you are going to lead life, completely depends on you! The choices you make every day, are the ones that are going to dictate your life. The crux is that you or the kind of life you live is the result of the choices you make, be it in any field.
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None of us has it all figured out! So, let’s just enjoy life while trying to figure it out in the process. You can keep things as simple as you want, or as complicated as you like. It’s up to you. The more you act nosy even with your life, the more loopholes you will discover. Trust me or not, the only way through is to enjoy the moment! When you can’t control a situation, get over it. When someone gets angry with you, show them love and compassion, they need it. When someone cries, give them a shoulder. When people act rude to you, be kind to them because it takes courage to be kind. On days your friend/ partner/ parents seem to not understand you, try to understand them more. Any relationship is not 50/50 but a 100/100. Let your ego not come in the way and complicate it all and do not the tit-for-tat rule define your life. Not every time life is a tit for tat; sometimes it’s good to take the lead for someone else because you would love it if someone else did that for you, won’t you?