Letting go is an art and the best part is that you can be the artist. There comes a time where you have to let go of certain people/things and it is perfectly alright.
Letting go means that you are brave enough to let something or someone walk away from your life. It means that you have the courage to take away from your heart what is killing you on the inside because you want to live again, and this time you want to live for the person you are and the one you want to be. It is never easy, but it is worth it.
Letting go means giving yourself a chance, making yourself a priority, and acting upon it all because someone out there is not able to respect you, your boundaries etc. Remember, you are your own responsibility, and hence it’s up to you to make yourself happy and content. Now, that can mean walking away from a bond because you aren’t being loved right, or because you don’t feel that bond anymore, or because you aren’t being respected enough, or because the efforts aren’t mutual anymore, or because you feel you are better off alone. Letting someone walk away whom you once considered your everything can be hard at times, but there must be a good enough reason and you sometimes need to respect that decision, everything becomes secondary.
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Waking up every morning is the worst part. The phone is there, but with no texts from that person that once was special. You crave all those good morning words that brightened up your day once and all those sweet messages at night. There are so many words that you wanted to say, but you never did. There are plenty of songs that you wanted to share with them because all the lyrics expressed how you felt, but now you can’t do that. There are moments you want to live once again, which now have become a memory. There is a lot of emptiness in your heart. There is anger, too. I understand you! I understand how you feel! But I also understand that you deserve to feel much better about yourself, and the world around you. Going through all these feelings makes it clear why letting go is an art. It is because art is supposed to make you feel things, and saying goodbye to something/someone that you loved once makes you feel the entire universe inside your head. And, once you heal and look back, everything starts to make sense. There is calmness because you did what was right. There’s a saying that goes like, “sometimes god breaks your heart, to save your soul”. Relatable right? To me, hell yes, it is! I am grateful for all the people who left, the ones who stayed and the ones I’ll meet sometime in future.
Past is like a brick which comes your way at certain points of your life, but hey life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it, right? Now, you need to decide what do you want to do with that brick. If you decide to stay there, you are not moving ahead! But if you decide to let it go and move on, Bravo! you are moving ahead in your life. Past is past, you cannot change it now, so accept it and look at the lessons it taught you, understand your mistakes and promise yourself you won’t commit the same mistake again, because the ones who learn from their mistakes and do not repeat it again are wise. So, whenever you feel low just sit back and relax, do not ignore your feelings and confront to yourself that you are not okay right now (it’s ok not to be ok, you are a human!). Just understand that we are always choosing, so today choose happiness, choose life and choose yourself. Afterall, we choose what we become and life is all about letting go things/people and accepting things as they are.
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Letting go can be hard, frustrating and confusing too but the truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.
Every person is either an experience or a lesson, and that’s how you learn about life. People leave when their chapter in your life is over, and at that point of time you should let them go because sometimes holding on is more painful than letting go and this comes from a very personal experience. I am happy I kept the door open for certain people to leave, because it made the space for new people to enter and I feel nothing but blessed to have them. It’s your life to live, it’s your story to write, why not make it the best seller?
Sending good vibes, your way!
When someone you love says goodbye you can stare long and hard at the door they closed and forget to see all the doors God has open in front of you ~ Shannon L. Alder