Have you ever experienced that a fear which you thought is no more there or a habit you thought you have moved on from came and stood in front of you looking in the eye? We get scared when something like this happens, don’t we? The fact is you cannot run away from your own core. The fear that comes in front of you is the fear that has not been healed and it’s quite normal to experience such things.
Some fears are healthy. If you see a poisonous snake in your back yard, and your fear prompts you to run back into the house and close the door, that is the kind of fear you should have, running into a snake is nothing but stupidity. The feeling of fear is natural and helps keep you safe.
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But other fears are unhealthy and unnecessary. Sometimes, your fear makes you more cautious than you really need to be. For example, the fear of meeting new people. It may be intimidating, but meeting new people does not pose any real threat to your safety. This fear is unhealthy because it stops you from doing things you might otherwise enjoy.
Talking about me, lately, I realized that I fear loving people the way I once did. Why? Because the ones I loved never really appreciated it. But, presently the people around me do appreciate, love, and pamper me which is different from how people in my past treated me and so it becomes difficult for me to react the way they want me to and then I realized that I still have wounds that are yet to be healed. And that is okay! You or I am not alone in this journey. We all experience similar things.
Important is to accept the fact as it is and work upon it. I am ready to work on my fears, are you? We are all healing and it’s the way we are going to be all our lives. Falling down is ok, what matters is having the ability to get up. Most of the time we do not realize but each and every one of us has that courage to stand up and walk our own way. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.
The question is what will happen if I will stand up and look in the eyes of fear that’s holding me back and tell him that “I take away your power that is holding me back from being myself”. Let me tell you, you need to do it once and you are halfway in your healing journey.
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The ultimate question is what will happen? For instance, what will happen if I will love people the way I once did? What is the worst that can happen? They will leave one day? Ok! And so? People come and go and that is a natural process, which has nothing to do with me. Just because I fear people will leave me, doesn’t mean I will live by that fear even when they are there with me because that is insane and so not right. Why can’t we enjoy their presence till the time they are with us? Why do we have to think of the future every time? They’ll leave when their chapter in your book will be over, but till then let’s live a good story and not regret each other. The story that was beautiful and didn’t mess up because you were scared, the story that was worth remembering and capable enough to bring tears of joy each time you read it.
The future is unpredictable, do not let your fear mess up a bond because it may end beautifully. Heal, we are all healing from something or the other.
"Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold." ~ Helen Keller