“Fake it till you make it”, I am sure you must have heard about it. Some people believe in this concept whereas some do not, it’s totally up to a person and his/her mindset. Well, I do believe in this one because it has unknowingly worked for me.
For those who don’t know about it, fake it till you make it is a concept in which a person believes he is already where he wants to be. For instance, you want to be rich, so start feeling like you already are, now by that I do not mean that spend all the money you have into buying things you otherwise wouldn’t. NO! Not at all, it’s good to believe in the concept while being in senses. It is a way to manifest what you want, it means have positive thoughts about what you want, and it is known to all, that our thoughts determine our life. Our thoughts can help us attract the things that we want in real life and this is the logic behind “fake it till you make it”.
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During tough times, we tell ourselves certain mantras like, “whatever is going to be happen will happen, I anyway have no control over it, so there’s no point worrying about it”, my personal favourite is, “whatever happens, happens for a reason, one might not be able to see the reason just now but eventually you’ll see” this has helped me overcome many situations that I don’t think I would ever have. These statements are meant to remind us of our values, so we can connect to a little positive encouragement when we need it. When we're feeling less than confident, we might tell ourselves to just “fake it until we make it.” I am not telling you to put out your fake self-out there, what I am suggesting you here is that if you are ever in a situation where you need to act confident but you deep down can feel that you are not, so act like you are confident and trust me it’s just another way to hype ourselves up. You will eventually start feeling the confidence rising.
The Law of Attraction is the belief that positive or negative thoughts bring positive or negative experiences into someone’s life. A central concept of the movement is to ‘act as if you already have it.’ This in itself is fine and is not too different from the notion of visualizing your future successes and achievements in an attempt to manifest the behaviours necessary to get you there. Faking it for the right reasons can change you for the better, but getting it wrong can create all kinds of problems with trust and transparency.
Faking it till you make it works, but it’s also important to understand when you should and when you should not?
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So, when is it not ok to fake it? When the ‘it’ refers to your core skills or abilities. You can’t feign competence like you can confidence. The unfortunate truth is that simply wanting to be better at something isn’t going to make the slightest difference; you either know how or you don’t. This is where faking it crosses over to the dark side and suddenly, you’re lying. You can’t pretend to be fluent in a foreign language if you can hardly string a sentence together. You can’t tell an investor that you have exceptional financial acumen if you can barely work excel. You can’t tell a prospective customer that your product will solve their problem if it won’t. Don’t lie about your, or your company/product capabilities because if you do and you get ‘found out’ then you’ve just lost that person’s trust.
Talking about another scenario that is too much in trend these days, “Faking emotions” it has suddenly become cool, when in reality it isn’t, in fact it is ridiculous! People have skilled in faking happiness, joy, desire or literally anything. It might feel good at first, but it’s not healthy for you in the long run. Hiding your emotions, wearing a mask of being the happiest being alive, will only trouble you, and if you think it’s cool sorry to say but no one is a bigger fool than you. Acknowledging your emotions, being vulnerable and saying it out loud to someone you trust is what is considered to be wise.
If you have a deep desire to change or improve something about yourself and you fake that behaviour with conviction in order to get there, then eventually the power of habit will kick in. Just believe fully in yourself, your ability to change and the reason you’re doing it in the first place.
Fake It Until You Make It! Act As If You Had All The Confidence You Require Until It Becomes Your Reality. ~ Brian Tracy