Have you ever been in a situation where you had to decide whether you want that person back in your life or not? Where you wanted to give them a second chance but could not decide if it was the right thing to do? Well, I have been there and so I completely get you! There isn’t a statement whether it’s the right thing to do or not. Sometimes, things are neither right nor wrong and we shouldn’t even force them to be.
I feel that giving second chances might not be worth it, because the person who broke your trust once can do it again. But again, this is not a fact and hence it’s not necessary for things to end up this way. Sometimes people like to think that time has a factor if they are worth giving another chance. I like to see if the time I spent with that person impacted me in a positive or negative way; only then, will I see if I want them to stay in my life. My final reason for deciding if someone is worth giving another chance is if they truly feel sorry for what they did, assuming you broke ties with them. If it was unforgivable, then it may be difficult to give them another chance. However, if you just grew apart and you want to reconnect, then a second chance may not seem like a terrible idea.
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Second chances are always a sensible and subjective topic. It can either bring back wonderful memories or some that you wish never entered your mind. The number of people that you give a second chance can either help or hurt you. We all learn from our mistakes, but every person is different. Do not stop giving second chances to people just because one person may have screwed you over. Second chances are meant to give people another chance. In the end, don't we all deserve a second chance?
How many times have you met someone you didn’t like at first but ended up being friends later because you realized the first impression was awfully wrong? How many relationships and friendships were restored because the second time around things was different and made more sense? How many milestones have you achieved at work when your boss gave you a second chance to do things right after a major flop? How many songs have you hated at first but ended up loving after listening to them a couple of times?
People aren’t always what you want them to be. Sometimes they disappoint you or let you down, but you have to give them a chance first. You can’t just meet someone and expect them to be everything you’re looking for and then be angry when they’re not every hope and aspiration you projected onto them. It’s foolish to believe that someone will be what you imagine them to be. And sometimes, when you give them a chance, they turn out to be better than you imagined. Different, but better.
Even life offers us a second chance, it’s called tomorrow!
It is the irony of life, you think the first time is the only time, you think the first time is the best time, you think the first time is the most important time. We’re so obsessed with getting things right from the first time that we often give up on things and sometimes ourselves too easily when things don’t work out. We don’t even give ourselves a second chance.
We are all humans and hence it’s pretty normal for us to make mistakes, what matters is that we learn from them. I have given people second chances and I think it would have been better if I didn’t let them come back because I was probably better off them. But, considering the kind of person I am, looking at the positive side they taught me things I wouldn’t have learned otherwise.
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Giving second chances can be sometimes very risky because it might mean giving someone another bullet because they missed the first time. Such things are meant to be felt, I would always follow my intuition/gut feeling. No matter how much sincerity people might be showing, they can always fake, and hence, it’s better to go with your gut feeling. Wouldn’t you want someone to give you a second chance? Wouldn’t you want to rewind certain moments in your life and do things differently? Sometimes things make more sense the second time around.
People change, you change and the universe changes, if we keep ourselves confined to first chances only, we will truly miss out on some of the most beautiful things in life. We can’t let the first impression stay throughout because people change and anyway change is the only constant.
“If there’s even a slight chance at getting something that will make you happy, risk it. Life’s too short and happiness is too rare.” ~ A. R. Lucas