You must have been told by someone or the other (mostly motivational speakers) that using positive affirmations can help you in achieving things you want to because it somewhat helps you manifest. But, there’s a huge difference between manifesting and narrating affirmations to yourself.
You must have tried positive affirmation and may have realized that when you start reciting the affirmations you may notice changes in your behavior and your life at first, but then as the affirmations become rote you ignore them and they lose their effect. The words are emerging from your mouth yet that doesn't naturally mean they're engrained in your heart and psyche.
Positive affirmations sometimes can promote toxic positivity.
It is said that “Control your thoughts and you control your reality” and this is correct. It is the mindset that needs to change, you need to change what you believe to achieve what you want to, and simply narrating the affirmations won’t help it. You don’t need to stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself that you deserve great things if you already believe that you deserve great things. Am I right or am I right?
What affirmations do is when you tell yourself that “I am successful”, you get an instant boost of a chemical called dopamine, which makes you feel like you are already successful due to which you may not now hustle to crave that feeling, because you are already experiencing it. The glad sensation of "empowerment" proceeds for a few days… until you get hit with a wave of anxiety once again. BIG BRAIN TIME.
What needs to be done instead is you need to do believe that you will be successful one day, you need to believe in yourself and your capabilities and then work accordingly, invest your heart and soul into whatever you do, and then wait for the universe to respond with the same energy because it does, trust me. Affirmations have never worked for me because they were, essentially, lies and lies don’t heal us; but believing in myself did wonders. In my recent article, Don’t Rush, I wrote that I believed July is for peace and progress and it turned out to be that way but I never really narrated the sentence to myself, I believed in it, I manifested it and that is exactly what I am suggesting you to do.
Consider the last time you wanted something to happen… It could be a dream job, an ideal relationship, or maybe an internship. Let’s suppose, you used positive affirmations in the exact way you were told. You composed your ideal result on a card, kept it with the rest of your personal effects consistently, and rehearsed the expression again and again in your mind. The final products of your endeavors were likely not the ones you were searching for. Having failed, you might have berated yourself. You didn’t do the affirmations correctly, you were somehow undeserving, or even: “it was meant to be (kismet ke aage kiski chalti hai).” The reason positive affirmations don’t work is is that they focus on the conscious level of your mind, but not the unconscious. If what you are trying to affirm is incongruent with a deeply held negative belief, then all that results is an inner struggle. Let’s say you believe that you are worthless, now when you tell yourself that, “I am worthy of great things in life” you deep down don’t agree with it because it is your subconscious mind that believes you are not and so the affirmation is of no use to you. To change your life, you need to change your mindset, and trust me on this you can change your life, just by changing your perspective. The journey may not be easy but it will surely be worth it.
If you want to achieve something you have never achieved before then you need to do something you have never done before.
"I'm terrified about taking care of this enormous, new task, however, I am figuring out how to believe in my capacity to accomplish my objectives. I'm figuring out how to improve". These statements aren’t “empty self-praise” or temporary “mood-boosters”. They're straightforward, self-regarding appraisals concerning where we're at, what we're realizing, and what we're equipped for becoming. They are insistences of truth—and reality will liberate you. You aren’t fooling yourself here, you are trying to accept and deal with reality. Will this help? Absolutely.
Celebrate yourself, appreciate yourself, grow, and believe in yourself but do everything while being grounded. Don't fool yourself by creating scenarios or statements that you don’t trust. Living, in reality, is better than living in your own world, because it is practical.
I believe you will achieve everything you want to but it would be great if you believe the same and work towards it. I believe in growing together, so here on this platform let’ grow together :)
“Believe in your heart that you're meant to live a life full of passion, purpose, magic, and miracles." ~ Roy T. Bennett